Thursday, September 24, 2009

Meet the (POLY) Family

Last weekend I met some of the other members in Jane's extended family as several of her friends visited.

Rick & his partner, Steve, came over Friday evening.

Rick said to Jane, "so this is your new pet?"

She said, "This is Dave. He might be my primary male if everything works out."

We chatted briefly and exchanged contact information. As I left the room, I overheard Rick say to Jane, "He does know you're a lesbian, right?" They went into Jane's "dungeon" for a session and left several hours later.

On Saturday, Sandra and Lea came over. Sandra was a close friend of Mary's (Jane's lover) - they tend bar at a lesbian club. Lea was Sandra's partner.

Jane introduced me to the women: "this is Dave. He's new to things and has a lot to learn. Please be nice to him".

Sandra quipped: "so this is Dave, Janey's slave". The women laughed.

The women decided to go shopping. Jane suggested I go with them. We piled into Jane's car and headed into the Valencia street area. We went to a bookstore and browsed titles. Jane took me to the "sexuality" section and suggested a couple of books that I look at. One was about bondage and the other a guide to anal sex. I read a little of each book and made a purchase. After this we had a coffee and walked into the local sex shop. In the smallish store, heterosexual and lesbian couples were purchasing condoms, vibrators, dildos, cock rings and lube. Jane asked a salesperson for help. A tall women approached. Jane explained that she had purchased one of their strap-on harnesses a while back and was wondering what kind of attachments to get for it.

"Is it for him? " the saleswoman asked, glancing at me.

"Yes, its for him, " Jane replied.

The salesclerk pointed to a row of dildos that were compatible to the harness Jane owned. The clerk also suggested that, "he should be broken in" with several different sizes of butt plugs that they had in stock.

I was a little anxious about purchasing the items.

"Don't worry, sweetie, " Jane said as she tapped my arm, "I'll teach you how to use these."

We then went to the bar where Mary worked. Mary saw us and suggested a table where she could serve us rounds and spend some time with us. Sandra and Lea eventually wandered off to meet other patrons. Lucy, a friend of Jane's, joined us. I recognized her from the BDSM club.

"So this is your boy, " Lucy said as she turned to me.

"Its my pleasure to meet you, " I said trying to make humor of her teasing.

"It will be my pleasure to meet you, " she said. The two women chuckled. They talked about the next BDSM party they planned to attend.

"Be sure to bring Dave with you," Lucy said as she left us.

We had a few more drinks and met other people. Mary told Jane that she would be home late. Jane hinted that it was time to go. We went back to the house. Jane kissed me on the cheek and said, "I like how you were with me today. Good night"

We went to our rooms.

Mary had come home later that night with her friend Maya. I met Maya in the morning as I was making coffee in the kitchen. She walked in wearing only panties and a bra. "Hi, I'm Mary's friend", she said as she took a seat. We talked about the school we both attended. Eventually Jane and Mary came into the kitchen and filled their cups with coffee.

Jane suggested we go for brunch in the Castro (a gay neighborhood of SF). We drove to a a small breakfast and lunch place with a patio in the back. There were mostly gay and lesbian couples eating there. Jane and Mary spotted their friends, Ken and Michael, who invited us to join them.

Jane introduced me: "Ken, Mike, this is Dave, my new boyfriend."

Michael said he thought he had seen me at the BDSM group a few weeks ago. I told him I was there with Jane.

"You were with Jane?" he asked.

"I came with someone else and met her there, " I replied.

"I meant, " he said, "you were in a scene with Jane?"

"Yes, " I admitted, feeling a little shy, "I've had several scenes with Jane. We first met there."

Then everyone chuckled. Ken said, "How sweet. We're happy that you go to the same parties that we do."


  1. sounds like your role is becoming more defined. When I did my initial research, I found out there are several different kind of submissive roles (house boy, 24/7, master/slave, ect). Reading your account, not sure which you are going towards, but as long as you are happy.

  2. Dear S-H: good observation about roles. It seems people outside of my primary triad also want to know which role will I fulfill. The two women in the triad are still feeling me out. I'll keep everyone posted on how this develops.
    Thanks for your comment, -Dave

  3. ...also bedroom submissive, chastity slave, etc....

    anyway a google on the subject I am sure will be helpful. I live as a 24/7 submissive to a loving wife. If I had to guess, you are looking at a BDSM scene type of situation to a caring female supremacist. I often dreamed about such a situation. Here is a work of fiction on such a relationship dynamic.

  4. man, you are so right on - I do feel like this Daniel in the story. Thanks for the pointer! -d